People who live in small towns and rural areas typically consider marriage as an important part of their identity. Some of them also have stereotypical beliefs about women’s sexuality and think that if they have extramarital sex with women, the women could become ‘emotionally clingy’ and that it could threaten their marriage. They don’t consider sex with men cheating and see it as a loophole in their marriage contract. Sex with men allowed them to have more sex. They explained that although they loved their wives, their marital sex lives were not as active as they wanted. Most of these men are also married to women and prefer to have sex with women. The majority of the men I interviewed reported that they are primarily attracted to women, not men. Why do straight-identified men have sex with other men? Silva found that they enjoy a range of relationships with other men, from hookups to sexual friendships to secretive loving partnerships, all while strongly identifying with straight culture.
Tony Silva argues that these men – many of whom enjoy hunting, fishing and shooting guns – are not closeted, bisexual or just experimenting.Īfter interviewing 60 of these men over three years, Dr. In the new book Still Straight: Sexual Flexibility among White Men in Rural America released today, UBC sociologist Dr. According to nationally-representative surveys in the United States, hundreds of thousands of straight-identified men have had sex with other men.
